When we were young, going on dates was easier. All our friends were also young and it was easy to know where to go on a date. We just went where ever everyone else went. We could double date with another couple, we could take a date to the movies. We could take a date to a get together with our crowd. There were endless possibilities.
The whole dating thing was pretty routine back then because everyone was doing it.
But now we’re over 50 and we suddenly find ourselves back in the dating game.
Unfortunately, when you are of the older generation, it feels like dating is for the young. By the time you reach this age, the majority of your friends are married with children and grandchildren, so they don’t know the ins and outs of dating any more than you do.
Even if you are asked on a date or want to ask someone on a date, at this age, you probably have no idea where to take a date.
Dinner and a movie is the old standby. But, isn’t that a little… how shall I say this…BORING? Plus, at dinner, you are going to be sitting across the table from someone you don’t know and conversation is going to probably be halting and uncomfortable since you are both going to be trying to think of things to say. Then, in a movie, there will be no conversation, but what if you are like me and can’t stay awake throughout a whole movie in a dark movie theater? What if you fall asleep and, God forbid, SNORE? At least that might make it a little amusing for your date, unless they are snoring, too and don’t notice.
But, you don’t have to take a date to dinner and a movie. There are lots of things we older folks can do that are fun and don’t take a lot of energy. I once had an older gentleman ask me on a date to go water skiing. When I told him, no, I’d never be able to handle it (not to mention the fact that I’m not getting in a bathing suit for anybody!) , he said, “Oh, thank God, I don’t think I could handle it either, but my son said I should ask you to do something out of the ordinary so you’d be impressed with my creativity!”
Here are some fun things you can do with a date that you might not have thought of:
1. Play miniature golf. Putt-putt golf takes no energy and the potential for laughter is high.
2. Go to a drive-in movie. Take 2 lawn chairs and sit outside the car under the stars while you watch the movie. Don’t forget to get snacks that are bad for you from the snack bar and pig out while enjoying the movie and the night sky.
3. Take a picnic lunch to a local lake. At our age, sitting on the ground on a blanket might be uncomfortable, but there are always picnic tables to sit at and usually grills to cook on. Scout out the area beforehand so you know what you should bring besides food and utensils… charcoal, blankets for on the bench, table cloth.
4. Go to an auction. Get your date involved in bidding on something one of you would like to have.
5. Flea Markets are always good dates for all of us older folks. Not that we need any more junk in our houses, but its fun to just scope out all the junk other people want rid of.
6. Go to a petting zoo. Petting zoos are great because the animals are warm and fuzzy which makes your date feel warm and fuzzy about you!
7. If you have a fair sized lawn, bring your date to your house, barbeque on the grill (or cook any kind of meal you can enjoy outside) and then play croquet on the lawn. You remember croquet, right? Big mallet, wooden ball hit through wire hoops. Croquet is always the most fun with more than 2 people, so you might invite another couple to play, too.
8. Take your date to watch one of the kids in your family play whatever sport they are involved in. Get them involved in rooting for the kid.
9. Go to an amusement park, fair or carnival. Too old, you think? Don’t be silly. Play the games, test your skill with the darts or rifles. Try to dunk that obnoxious guy in the dunking tank. Eat hot sausage and ice cream at the same time. Win your date a prize. Definitely go for a ride on the merry-go-round. It’ll bring back so many memories. And, if you dare, see if you can get your date on the Ferris wheel!
10. Take your date fishing. Take lawn chairs. There’s nothing like a relaxing day along a crick bank (that’s right, I said crick, not creek), enjoying the sunshine and hoping for a bite. If your date doesn’t want to fish, have them bring along a book or their crocheting so they can enjoy the time outdoors while you fish.
These are just a few examples of things we older folks can do with each other that aren’t so out of the ordinary that your potential date will think you are a loonatick for even suggesting them.
May all your dates be fun.
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